Girl, Pathways to Power: Building Confidence and Clarity w/ Sabine

Welcome to a transformative episode of Girl, Come Sit With Me! Join host Dom and special guest Sabine as we dive into the power of JOMO (the Joy of Missing Out), pathways to power, setting boundaries, and building unshakable confidence. We explore how people-pleasing holds us back, why saying ‘no’ is an act of self-care, and how surrounding yourself with the right energy can elevate your life.

Sabine shares a powerful realization: ‘If you say yes when you really wanted to say no, what’s the point? Now you’re there, but you’re not fully present, and you’re letting the person down even more.’ 

This episode will help you reclaim your time, energy, and self-worth. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that could change the way you show up in life!"

Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction to Collective Empowerment
• 3:00 The Journey to Confidence
• 6:02 Mental Health Advocacy and Personal Experiences
• 9:03 The Importance of Softness and Vulnerability
• 12:00 Navigating Change and Personal Power
• 14:53 Community Engagement and Small Changes
• 17:55 Creating Initiatives for Change
• 21:13 Confidence in Male-Dominated Fields
• 23:52 Embracing Authenticity
• 26:59 Finding Your Voice and Confidence
• 29:59 Surrounding Yourself with Positivity
• 33:00 The Power of Connection and Support

Transcript

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Okay, welcome to Girl Come Sit With Me, the live recording. I have a special guest in the building. Her name is Sabine and y'all. One of the cool things about my guest tonight is that all three of the guests that I've had tonight were literally selected by the listeners of Girl Come Sit With Me. Yes, yes. Okay, so I put it out there and was like, hey, who would you all like to see? This season, first season was all about me, all about self discovery and y'all on this journey with me. But this season, it's about the collective, okay? Can everybody say on collective? On collective. There we go, yes. So today we have Sabine. Thank you so much for coming. Thank you for having me. I love the concept of your show. Girl, come sit with us. It just feels like it's going to be a conversation with the bestie. I'm happy to be here. Yes, and y'all, she has a podcast as well called Pathways of... Pathways to power. Pathways to power, okay? Because that is what we're going to be focusing on. We want to embrace our power because that's what's gonna help us show up for ourselves if we're being honest, right? So let's talk about it, okay? And let's also add confidence and because you exude a lot of confidence and a lot of authenticity and I feel like that has to be something that you've either learned through your journey or is this naturally in you. Hmm. You know, I think that confidence is something that, you know, you can see people that you admire out in the world and think like, they just were born that way or, you know, it just comes to them so easy. But I feel like it can be easy when you're true to yourself, when you lean into who you really are, when you identify the strengths, you know. that you have the things that come naturally to you and you allow those things to show up and just radiate from you. So like for me, I've always loved to talk and to do storytelling and share, I guess, my perspective. so even if I may feel nervous or something like that, like that, I... learn that and just embracing that and just doing it and just going for what feels natural, that muscle starts to build, that confidence muscle begins to build. I love that, doing what feels natural. So sometimes when things feel natural, we don't even realize that we're doing it. Right. How do we peep? What are those things that feel natural to us if we don't even, we're on autopilot. Right, so I think it's just how you feel in the moment and then also to echo something that someone else had said earlier that sometimes it's what you constantly hear, right? So from the people that are around you, they'll tell you, when you speak, it makes me feel comfortable. It makes me feel at home, you know? And so even if it may take a while for you to see yourself in that way, Because a lot of times people will see things in you before you even see it in yourself. Just lean into it. Just lean into it and know that if they're saying that it's for a reason and maybe it's something in you that you need to hone in and probably develop more. But there's something to that. If they're saying it, there's some truth there. So yeah. And y'all, I forgot to tell you all, you heard how impactful that was? Y'all, is a whole advocate, okay? She is a mental health advocate. She works with an array. Well, I'll let you tell it, my bad. So I'll tell the journey of I guess how I got into mental health advocacy, right? So believe it or not, I spent about 10 years in law enforcement. So I was actually out and about in full uniform in the car and all of that. There was times when I was stopped and people would ask, are you an actor? you like, are you really an actor? You know, but yes, I was out there and doing the job, but I think in that experience, I met so many people who needed to heal. I mean, what you'll learn or what I found in that experience is that not everyone that calls for our services, that call for police, are calling because of a crime or a disturbance or everything. Sometimes they're really just looking for someone to listen to them. And so you quickly find that you're doing more than just law enforcement, but you're also being a therapist, a listening ear. You're being a friend, you know, for people that may live alone. They may call just because they're lonely. And so what I found is that in doing that, in my time in law enforcement, and especially when I trained in crisis intervention, I started to realize, okay, I think I have a heart for this. I'll never forget when I completed the police academy. And so we had to do crisis intervention training. We did that for about a week or so. And the woman who was in charge of the crisis intervention training, she had us all go around the room and share something about ourselves. to introduce ourselves. And so as I began to speak, she said, wow, there's just something so soft about you. And let me tell you, I just finished the academy. So I was actually really mad. Because I was like, soft, who's soft? I just did all this. But that comes natural to me, right? And soft, we may look at it as a weakness, but it's really, if we reframe that, it's... having sensitivity, you know, maybe even like emotional intelligence that you can pick up on things. I figured out that if I'm going to do this thing of law enforcement, because I kind of just fell into it in a way, I figured if I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna take my own approach and I'm gonna be authentic to who I am, soft and all. And I'll just be something different, you know, in the community. And so in doing that, I started to mentor young girls through Girl Power of Miami if anyone's familiar with it. I continued my training with crisis intervention and really just started to learn more and more about mental health and how it can affect us in our daily lives. so even now, leaving from the, it's been over 10 years since I've left law enforcement and transitioned. Yeah, so I'm telling on myself because 10 years in the force and 10 years out but Yes, but you know what? I I felt so compelled to like stay within that realm of mental health that after leaving I decided you know what I'm going to find a way to be That same mental health advocate in the community. And so I learned about crisis text line yes. I about Crisis Text Line, went through the training as a crisis counselor. And for those of you who may not know, it is a free mental health platform where you can simply text in if you're having a bad day or you're going through your own crisis. You can be routed to a trained crisis counselor. And so to help you deescalate, maybe you don't have anyone to speak to. so It's a good resource to have and it's completely free. 365 days of the year, 24 hours. So a great resource for anyone listening 741-741. You will text the word home or share and you'll get plugged into, I didn't mean to do, I didn't mean to promo for them. Yes, so you would text home or share to 741-741. And it's actually available. I just, really stand by that service because I feel like, and everyone is on their phones these days, right? And so, yeah, and even think about our kids, know, teenagers, they're always texting. And so to be able to tap in with someone who is trained to hear them out and help them decompress, and it's free, is just amazing. And it's available here in the U.S., in Canada. and both in English and And think about it now, when it comes to texting, I don't know if any of you all have noticed, maybe some of my listeners have noticed, sometimes people are more willing to say things via text that they would never say to your face. Or sometimes people are more, so I can see where people are more willing to just share. Sometimes when you don't have to say it out loud, it hits different. It's almost as if you have to acknowledge something or acknowledge your feelings when you say it out loud. Versus if I'm writing it down, it's like, okay, I'm releasing it But I'm also not feeling some type of way or feeling like I'm cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs or anything like that I would say too that in not seeing the person face to face, I think that can be helpful for someone who maybe therapy feels daunting for them. And so that might be like a first step into getting support, getting mental health support. And probably that barrier as well of not having to see someone face to face, it helps them feel like they're not being judged. Yeah, I love that. And earlier you mentioned something about, I loved when you mentioned about being soft because one of the mirrors, so for all my listeners out there, during this live recording, I do have an art installation that I created and I basically took a whole bunch of mirrors and I just put things that I knew that I needed to hear some days. So one of them says, girl, you deserve softness. And at the bottom I put dot dot dot and joy. Because sometimes we need permission to be soft. Yes, I love, you know what, I love that you said that because I think in the last few years, especially since the pandemic, there's been this whole soft era moment going on in our here for it. Yes. And it's just, you know, and I think that was part of the reason why so many years ago when I heard the trainer say soft, I took offense to it because back then and especially within that field, soft was frowned upon. But now we're embracing, we're starting to see the value in being soft and letting for the women, allowing ourselves to bask in our femininity. So I think it's a great thing and I'm glad that I was able to get to a point where I could reframe that and see the power even in being soft. love that because there's a power in order to be soft we have to embrace the power of understanding that it's okay to be vulnerable. Yes. Understanding that it's okay for me to feel however I feel. It's okay for me to sit in it not stay in it. I ain't say girl come stay in it with me. Okay. It's okay to sit in it just for a little while and it's in those moments. where we continue to gather our power. Because for whatever reason, the freer I feel in this stage in life and the more powerful I feel, the softer I am. The more gentle I am. I don't have to constantly exude because you just get tired of it. And there's also strength in being silent and being, there's strength in that when you don't have to always defend yourself or have a response for everything. So I love that. So you mentioned something about you don't have to sit in it or you don't have to stay in it. So there's a lot going on in our country right now. the inauguration, we want to call it that. It just happened the other day. And it just took me back to a video that I shared online just shortly after the election. And in that video, I was saying, you know, a lot of people are feeling all kinds of emotions right now, right? When the results came out and I said, you know, you may, there may be some people who are sad, some people who are happy because, you know, let's be real, there's he but he he wanted so there's play people who voted for him whether we know it or not or whether we know them or not and so i said but let's let's think about the fact that you know this person is the president and you know it's a position but not everyone who's in position has personal power and so let's be reminded that A lot of the issues that we want to see change or the change that we want to see is happening closer to home than on a national, a federal level. And so when you are upset or if you're upset, instead of staying in that, know, fill your feelings, but then also remind yourself that, okay, I have the power to affect change in any, it doesn't matter how big or small. And so that may mean running for office, that may mean starting an initiative, that may mean creating something within your community. Again, no matter how big or small. so... I literally, so candid moment, I was getting my taxes done today. So I was literally right up the street at St. Clair Financial Services. I was literally getting my taxes done today and when I tell you that's what we were talking about, we were talking about how the smallest of things can evoke so much change and that can be Talk about community-wise, whether it's going to those meetings, even if it's HOA meetings or those town hall meetings, right? But guess what? Tonight is about showing up for ourselves. So let's bring that inward and think about it. What are those small changes that we can make within ourselves? Those small changes in our habits or maybe some habits that we can replace, even if it's just a small one. Like, okay, I notice I rush in the morning. that causes me anxiety and I'm just in a disarray. Even if that means something as small as, you know what, I'm just wake up 15 minutes earlier. Just to give myself a little bit of a gray spirit. That small change, just how you mentioned it, small changes. That small change can impact so much of our day. And if we start having more days like that where it's getting a little better, getting a little better, guess what? Before you know it, a month passes and you're like, hey, I'm up. It's up. I really, girl, we was just talking about that. I love that, yes. Yeah, so I want to mention that a part of that small change that I decided to make last year was in starting a social initiative called Lights, Camera, Action for Change. And so in speaking of getting your confidence, right, and finding your pathway to power, that was my way of getting my pathway to power because I had an experience where I once was a entertainment hopeful and I wanted to pursue modeling and acting and I had an experience that wasn't so pleasant and so in hearing the stories that had been coming out within the last few years I said okay well many people may be thinking well this is just happening on the you know with celebrities right and I wanted to sort of bridge the gap that well if this is happening to people that are the most visible what is happening to those who are right, you know, within our midst, within our communities. And even just thinking about my own experience, not only personally, but also some of the things I've seen in law enforcement, my time in law enforcement. I said, okay, let's create this initiative. And I started in a virtual event. That's how it was launched, a virtual event. I recorded it right here in co-space. Cosmase, yo! And we had some of the talented folks who are right here in this room now who were a part of that event, Salam the poet and Shad. Salam the poet and find him at book dot salon the poet yeah got it right and Morris was also a part of that event. a really dope photographer, y'all. Paul Morris and Singer. yes, and so we had a number of, you know, just experts within the field who came and they shared their experiences. I spoke on my experience. We had an entertainment attorney, a labor attorney. That is amazing. Yes. And so we decided, you know what, let's make this an ongoing initiative. And so we'll be launching the first in-person event this year in April. And so I'm excited about that. But, you know, and speaking of, you know, sometimes we go through things, trauma, know, different things in our lives where we feel like, well, we know it took a piece of us, right? And it dims our light and it makes us feel smaller. And in doing things like an initiative and doing things like this, you have, you find a way to sort of reclaim your power. and get your confidence back. yes. what it's about. Because sometimes it's just like what you said, it's those little experiences or maybe the major experiences where you start to wonder, how do I get back to who I once was? And for me, something I had to learn after certain traumas, I had to learn, it's not about getting to the old me because she gone. She's gone. But what I can do is relearn, continue to learn. Who I am now. Who I am now. Learn how to love who I am now. Understand what I like now. What brings me joy now. Yes, what I, you had mentioned that, yeah, you don't want to go back to the old you because the old you is what got you there. And it's not a negative thing, but in going through that experience, now you have wisdom. Now you have, you know, something that you can reflect on so that when something else happens, you can see, okay, well, I remember this from last time and I don't have to let it go that far because I recognize, okay, this is how it started. Let me stop it before it. it even begins. Yes. So then, you mentioned being in law enforcement for a decade. How are you so confident after being in such a male-dominated field? So, I think the fake it till you make it. Okay, okay. I think the fake it till you make it, it's not always, I guess, encouraged by some, I think there is some valid points to it. When you know that you want to be this confident person, start envisioning yourself as that person, as that woman, you know, who is confident. Look at, view yourself in that lens. And it will come, with time it will come. But I remember during my time in law enforcement, one thing that truly helped me is being true to myself. And so I am a girly girl. And I would be in full uniform with my hair done, with red lipstick, okay, which made me feel powerful. And I remember, you know, coworkers, men and women, telling me, well, where are you going? Like, this is not a fashion show. And you know, I got a lot of heat for it, but not long after, many of those same people, the women anyway, would start coming to work in full makeup or more than what they were used to wearing. so... Right. Yes, you set the standard. Very good. Yes, and so I think for the women here, you know, if you are in a male-dominated field like I was, don't feel like you have to adapt so much that you lose who you are as a woman and just as a person. Bring whatever it is that makes you unique to that space. I remember figuring out again, you know, like I'm going to be that officer that can have that connection with the community through mentoring. I would stop folks and tell them, you see that that's on your, like, for me it was all about educating people. So while I did still have a job to do, I wanted to make sure that I would be that point of contact where people could say, well, they aren't all the same. yeah. love that. That's being able to find a way to stay true to who you are, especially when you're placed in certain situations or certain in your field, in your example, in your career that way. You actually gave me a flashback to a while ago. I won't age myself, but I do remember being in high school and about the senior year I was a band geek. So by the senior year, I was head drum major and I was over, our band had like 150 of us and I was the only girl. And I was the one that was in charge of even the other guy drum majors and everyone and they just wanted me to be, hey, you can't smile. Y'all, I smile all day. Okay? I smile when I'm crying. Well, my bad. When my eyes pee, then I don't cry too often. But. I smile all day. So imagine me, I'm at the podium like this. Mean mug and trying to mean mug, y'all. I was laughing. It's not me. By the end of that year, I was like, listen, y'all going, hey. Blow the whistle, deet deet. Cheese. Deet deet. You know what you remind me of when I was freshly new into law enforcement I earned a title of I mean I had a lot of nicknames but one of them was Tinkerbell and I would just come out the car look at you Tinkerbell and they would say you know how long have you been on the force because you just don't sound jaded or like I would hear a lot of those comments and it just reminded me again going back to the the softness. so, you know, just be you, just be you. you know, everyone, you can only be you, right? And everyone else is taken. So allow who the truth, the true you, the true Dom, allow that to be, to come through in all your interactions, all your encounters. See, thank you. I received that and I do have a question. So how in the world, you said be you, right? Now as we be ourselves, how in the world do we find a way to... How do we find a way to hone in on who we are? So. Like just owning it. How do you get to a place of where you're confident enough to just own it? And granted, I hear women say all the time, maybe some of you all have heard, maybe your aunts or a mom or someone say like, man, I live my best life in my 40s and 50s. Or these are the women, we see these powerful, beautiful black aunties that we know and love and they have that boundary thing on lock. No, I'm not doing that. Uh-uh, sugar, why you doing that, baby? Why? That's not necessary. How do we get to that point at an earlier age? Or do you think it's only with experience? think you could definitely learn from other people's experiences, but we're all different. Like me, I've had to experience things to learn. But I think that if you seek, if you have friends who've been through, or someone that's older who can mentor you, you can definitely learn from them and realize at a sooner stage in life that your happiest when you allow yourself to just be you too and to be boundary to say no when you mean no or to say yes when you mean yes and to say no when you really want to say no. So one of my latest episodes on my podcast it was called to pathways to power. Pathways of power. It was the, we were talking about the power of slowing down. And this particular guest, she is a Jomo advocate. Jomo, meaning the joy of missing out. And it, it, that's real. And so it was a lot about boundaries, right? Because she said, you know, many times we're wanting to go here and there. And a lot of it is because of people pleasing. And we feel like, well, we have to show up for people. And if we say no, they're gonna be upset or they're gonna be mad. And in the conversation, we came to the realization that, well, if you said yes and you really wanted to just lay down and now you go, what is the point? Because now you can't fully show up anyway. So now you're there, you're not being fully present. And so you're probably letting the person down even more showing up and not being able to give up. of you. Right, and so I think it's, I've come to the place now where I can say, you know, I wanna put myself first and say no when I know it's not truly in me to show up. And it's freeing doing that, it's freeing doing that. And you mentioned, you had asked something about just being confident in who you are and in a very practical way, I would say, take a personality test. you know, to find your strengths. Take a personality test. So I did like a disc assessment and in those sort of assessments you can see, you can find out, where do my strengths lie? Because, you know, even if people tell you, may not believe it, but then if you take the assessment, it's letting you know right then and there that, okay, well, this is your strength here and here are the areas that you can improve upon. And... you celebrate your strengths, you develop them to make them even better and at the same time dedicate time to improving those areas. Yes, and if you all look up, I have my students do this all the time, so you can literally look up free personality tests and you want it to be able to tell you, hey, it's not going to say you are an extrovert or you are an introvert. What it's going to do is everything's going to be on a scale because everything is on a continuum, okay? So it's just going to tell you where you lie. Are you closer to this? Are you this percentage of this? It's just gonna tell you where you lie. And one of the cool things about it, I'm so glad you mentioned it. One of the cool things about it is once you figure out your personality, you're gonna see that some of those traits on there is rather accurate. Okay, thank you. It's gonna tell you some, it's rather accurate with telling you not just the traits, but also in your career. So it lets you know in a lot of those what type of careers work for you. Are you the analytical type of person or are you the dreamer? It's going to give you those and some of you may look at it and say, wow, that's why I don't like this dog on job. Or, ooh, this is why I'm good with this. Or, this is why I'm always in a relationship. It's very good. And I think it's also helpful in how to interact with others, right, and other personalities, even difficult personalities. understand what drains you. Right, and so like going back to confidence now, a major part of that in building your confidence, which is something I'm still actively doing, is surrounding yourself around people, you know, that lift you up. People that speak life into you. That can totally help your confidence and help you to believe in those same strengths and things that people are constantly telling you that may be hard to believe because you're probably... around folks that are not building you up. And so you hear the negative more than the positive. And so the more you surround yourself around that positivity, it's going to be easier to believe in those strengths and the things that are the best of you. It really is because what I started doing is sometimes we always see like, find that celebrity that you look up to and take some of their traits. But I'm going to challenge everyone in this room to find the people around you. Look at the people around you and discover, allow yourself to discover the traits that you admire about them or the traits that your social circle has. Maybe it's your family, whatever. that they have that you want and work to emulate that. If that's someone that you know, you love, you trust, you admire, and they're close to you, it makes it even easier. Because sometimes we start to pick up traits when we're around people. Think about it. Even if you have, I don't know why Sneaky Link has just been in my mind today, but even if you have a Sneaky Link and you don't want anyone to know that that's just your kids' Sneaky Link, right? Guess what? You may end up picking up some of their vernacular, some of their words, some of their verbiage without even realizing it. And the people watcher or mental health advocates, right? We may end up picking up like, know, such and such says that all the time. You never are, okay? We gonna start putting two and two together, but it's the same thing. Do that. Same thing with those that you know and love, that support you, that are there for you, that pushes you to be greater. Take some of they traits. Don't drain them y'all, but you know, get some of those. I love that. Yeah, so and I would also say, you know, the things that you admire, let them know as well. Let them know. I think the more you can uplift people, they're going to look to do the same to you. And so it's just, you know, be that be the energy that you want to receive. Yeah. And I think that can also. So be the energy that you want to receive. That could definitely help with your confidence because if you're coming in with good positive energy People are gonna mirror that to you and that's just gonna make you feel more confident in the spaces that you're in and then you'll also know when to exit stage left right when the space is not for you, so Yeah, I think that is definitely key. Yeah, thank you building your confidence and that's also why I smile a lot even on my down days, even when I'm feeling down because I kind of want people to mirror my smile in a sense because sometimes I need to see it but I can't be in the mirror all day without people thinking I'm conceited, okay? So I love to just exude that because if I could make someone else's day better At least in my mind, it's like I still have the power to make myself better. Even if I can't do it in this moment, it still reminds me that I still have the power to do it. So if I can do it for someone else, I can do it for myself. I can show up for myself if I can show up for someone else. So thank you so much, Sabine. Like, I really appreciate you coming. This was a very beautiful episode. Thank you. You're beautiful, girl. This is amazing. So thank you so much for tuning in to Girl Come Sit With Me, the live edition with Sabim. Have a beautiful day. Yay! Amazing! Yes! thank y'all I was literally just about to ask y'all see if anyone had any questions this is a quick little Q &A moment or even if you have any suggestions even if you have any suggestions or things like that. Yes. What made you get out your comfort zone to not only use your voice as beacon for other people to understand what's going on with you. But what made you step out your comfort zone? You said last year was your embracing yourself, rediscovering. It was. So now how did that, how did that even become? How did this even become? So fun fact, I used to work in a funeral home. Yes, my family owns a funeral home in North Miami, right? A young funeral home. And I grew up around that. And when you grow up in surrounded by death, And not in a negative way, but it's just you grow up surrounded by it as if it's a way of life. So you get used to being around people at the darkest time. And I just learned at an early age that I enjoy being that person that can either help someone during their darkest times or even just bring a smile. Even if they don't remember me, but I make them laugh in the midst of their tears. For whatever reason, that brought me joy and that brought me out of my dark moment. So soon as it was suggested to me by my sister to start a podcast, I like, I don't know. I know I have a voice. I know my students, my college students, they love to tell me, you're a different professor. You're not like the regular ones. You actually checked on me. You did a mental health check on me. I'm like, yeah, we do that. I need you to be OK. I don't want you to just get an A in my class. No, no, no. I need you to excel and thrive after you take this. So that was pretty much how it started, was literally being at a funeral home playing around as a little girl. Yeah, that sounds very morbid when you say it out loud. But I promise you, when you get used to it, the stillness is a little calming, but whatever. question, or it gets weird. Scurries away as I show you all my... Hello, any other questions comments concerns? What's the next? Yes, very good. 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So the veggies, not sure if y'all had a chance to look at the menu, but those vegetables came from that farm in Overtown. Okay. Literally she grew them and harvested them. Is that what they call when you pick it? And harvested them. Okay. Listen, that is, y'all, I'm trying to tell y'all, and it was, it was so good. So thank you so much. Shout out to you, Gil, for real. Thank you enough. You, I love and appreciate you so much, not just for doing this and being my engineer and making me look cute. my God. But it's also because you're willing to teach us. The fact that I was able to have so much access to you through co space y'all he my friend I don't know if you know But he my friend so feel free to book him his services. It's very easy go to welcome to co space calm Okay, and book the room and you can book an engineer aka my dog Now before we head out remember I'm gonna have some music playing so you don't have to rush out But keep in mind, we do have pillows and shirts back there, 20 each. And y'all, oh see, there you go. And also you all, there is a lot of business owners in here. There's a lot of business owners. There's a lot of nine to five-ers, y'all. I do both. I have a nine to five, and I have my business, and I'm also a professor. We don't play no games around these costs, okay? So please make sure that just look around, see who you can network with. see who you can connect with because the energy is already here. So it doesn't have to be an awkward moment. Okay. And if you need to grab my hand and put my hand in somebody else's hand to help you out, I can do that. Cause that's how I my best friend. So, yeah. I need to understand the story behind the yelp. Oh, so I born and raised in Miami.. Yes, yes, he is going for me now you back though. So now whenever you want to do a little you Dior frame Yeah Scientifically speaking your um, your hood off the leak your phenomenal muscle Start from there. Yes, let it start from right there and build on it Yes, so I got you on collective. Can everyone say it with me on collective? collective. There you go. So thank y'all so much for coming. Tag your girl, run these pictures up. And thank y'all for coming to sit with me. I really appreciate it. Thank you! Okay, y'all so y'all know I have beautiful chocolate skin so we're gonna face this light Yes! Fun house! I don't know what else fun to do. Thank All righty This is good. I'm sorry Go again. Thank you It's. It's a video so you can hold it. Oh, you do a line. I know I'm great. Ready? Oh look. Do a laugh and pause. Oh, yeah, cuz I worked hard to be here. Hey you worked hard as him that's wait! Get a picture with me! 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