Girl, Let That Go: Moving On Without Forgiving

Letting go isn’t giving up—it’s choosing yourself. In this episode, we dive into the power of releasing what no longer serves you, even if that means moving on without forgiving. Society tells us that forgiveness is necessary for healing, but what if you don’t need to forgive to be free? What if the real key is letting go of the weight, not excusing the harm? I share my personal journey of choosing myself, prioritizing my peace, and how releasing resentment (without forced forgiveness) has allowed me to thrive. Let’s break free together, because carrying baggage you don’t need? That’s a burden you can drop.

Chapters

• 0:00 The Burden of Holding On
• 8:05 Understanding Emotional Avoidance
• 16:11 Fear of the Unknown and Familiar Pain
• 23:59 Breaking Trauma Bonds
• 31:48 Steps to Letting Go

Transcript

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Girl, why are you still holding on to that? No, seriously, why? That grudge, that hurt, that one time someone did you dirty? I get it. You're here, but here's the thing. You're not punishing them by holding on, you're punishing yourself. You think you're protecting yourself, but really you're blocking your blessings. Girl, it's time to let it go. Not for them, for you. Today, we're diving into the art of letting go. Why it's so hard, what's holding us back, and most importantly, how to free yourself mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally. And trust me, there's a whole new world waiting for you on the other side of release. So grab your tea, grab your journal, or whatever you need to settle in because This is gonna be a conversation you don't want to miss. Letting go sounds simple, but let's be real. It's one of the hardest things to do. And it's not because we want to hold on to the pain, it's because so much of what we hold on to is tied to who we think we are. Studies say and psychologists say that unresolved emotions, especially when it's tied to trauma, gets locked into our identity. It's like carrying an emotional backpack full of bricks everywhere you go. Heavy, right? I know y'all heard Erika Badu's song, Bag Lady. Same thing, she say, Bag Lady, you gon' miss your bus. Dragon, all that stuff like that. Statistically speaking, women are more likely to hold on to emotional pain than men. A 2021 study from the American Psychological Association found that women often hold onto guilt and resentment longer due to societal pressures just to keep the peace or be the bigger person. Does that sound familiar? How many little girls do we know? have to hear that all the time. Like it's okay, hey you are a young lady keep the peace, keep it cute, be his peace. How about I figure out how to be my own piece? And me being my own piece and making sure that I stay in a peaceful place stems from me letting certain things go, not holding on to everything. Because quite frankly, girl, carrying that pain isn't making you stronger. It's just making you tired. That's all it is. How many of us have seen people that we went to school with and we look at them and they were just amazing? Meaning they looked bomb, everything about them, you was like, yeah, they were the it person. And then you look at them now only to realize how hard life has hit them. You can see them holding on to life, what life has given us, but we don't have to hold on to all of it. We can pick and choose. What if I told you, you can pick and choose what you can hold on to? What if I told you that? I mean, let's get real. What are you holding on to? Is it a relationship that ended badly? A missed opportunity? Is it betrayal? Like take a moment and really think about it. And I'm not just, I know sometimes our first thoughts has for whatever reason, always ends up being relationships. But no, there's plenty of things. What about those childhood traumas? What about that time that little kid picked on you when you was in elementary school? We hold on to certain moments. Y'all Janelle Monae has a song where she said, I remember in the third grade when you rated me a six. And I was like, damn, with the tears in my eyes, I always knew I was the shit. Think about it, she still holds on to that memory. Now the beautiful part is she didn't fully let that little boy's negativity seep into her. So that is a beautiful thing. But we all have those core memories, those defining moments. that lets you know like, you know, my confidence always been up or, hmm, I've always struggled with my confidence or whatever that looks like for you. But I mean, take a moment and really sit with this. And as you sit with it, ask yourself, is the pain worth my peace? Is the pain worth my peace? Is the pain worth keeping me up at night? Now, granted, there are some things that happen to us that is jarring and it has the ability to scar us to the deepest of our core. I'm not talking about moments like that. Now, for those of you who are able to let those moments like that go, Kudos to you. I'm not even gonna hold you. I'd say... About 70 % of me is that type of person. Like we just gon' mm, I'ma just let it go, cause if I hold on to it, I know what it's gonna look like. Now, at the age that I am, it is sad for me to say, and I feel as though many people can relate to this, where you may have lost a loved one that was young due to stress. due to heart attacks. Yes, granted, our eating habits, things like that, but the stress that we hold, and sometimes the stress stems from things that we're holding onto that we are fully capable of letting go. I'm not saying we have to forget. We not doing all that. You don't have to necessarily forget, okay? But sometimes when we forget, we end up repeating the same mistakes. So I'm not saying for us to forget. My thing is, how about we try our hardest to remember? but not let it affect us as much. What if we learn to grow past it? and grow through it, unpack it, whatever that looks like, and let it go. Because I mean, okay, matter of fact, let's jump to the why. Why is it so hard to move on? Now, depending on what we talking about, there is a plethora of reasons of why it is hard for us to move on regarding certain memories. and certain experiences that we go through. But I wanna talk about some of the ones that people don't necessarily like to talk about. One of those is emotional avoidance. Yeah, I said it, emotional avoidance, okay? Some of us suppress our feelings instead of dealing with them. We have the mentality, I just ignore it, it'll go away. But no, girl, ignoring emotions is like ignoring a fire alarm. It doesn't stop the fire. You can ignore that fire alarm as much as you want. It does not stop the fire. It doesn't. and we have to do a better job, some of you are excellent at this. Some of you are like, no, I attack it head on, whatever emotion I'm feeling, that's what it is. But understand emotional avoidance is more common than you think. So if you're the type to do this, you are not by yourself. But ignoring it is only going to make it where... Eventually, when we bottle those emotions in, when we hold certain things in, what happens? It builds pressure. And yeah, I get it. We love diamonds. Diamonds are made off of pressure. I get all that. Pressure makes diamonds. But when it comes to emotional avoidance and when it comes to us being healthy mentally, spiritually, physically, emotionally, it has the opposite effect. it ends up breaking us down. And matter of fact, let me start talking in first person because I have these moments where I'm guilty of this too. I realized that my emotional avoidance looks a little like... toxic positivity. It can be whatever's going on. it's, mean, it could be fires of blazing, but no matter how I'm feeling, I'm not necessarily going to show it. I'm more so just gonna say, okay, okay, what are the positive moments about this? What can I, how can I make lemonade? You gave me lemons, how can I make lemonade? Or matter of fact, stop playing. You gave me some lemons, how can I slice these lemons up and squeeze it on top of my salmon for later? Right? I'm that type of person. But technically that is emotional avoidance too. Sometimes I'll say, I'm okay. When I'm not, I'm just trying to constantly remind myself that I'm okay until it's true. so I don't drown. But I have to remind myself and even, my goodness, between I learned this during my divorce, that I have to allow myself. During my divorce, a lot of people reminded me, a lot of people that I trust and love reminded me that I don't believe that it's okay for me to be, to not be okay all the time. In fact, it feels weird when I'm not okay. So imagine me going through a year or two, year and a half, two, whatever you wanna call it, where I just wasn't okay for most of that time. And I just kept telling myself, they'd be like, girl, how you doing this? I'm good. And it's like, I would say I'm good, outwardly I'm good. If we just go a little deeper, I'm all right. But them moments where I would end up alone and my babies are sleeping and I have nothing to distract me, nothing to help me avoid my emotions, I would realize that I wasn't okay. I wasn't. So emotional avoidance is definitely, one reason why we struggle to let things go. Because you have to be able to admit that emotion or admit how you are feeling, what you are experiencing, just to be able to help process how you're feeling. You have to be able to acknowledge it first. So emotional avoidance is definitely one, for sure. Another one would be fear of the unknown. Fear of the unknown. because sometimes we'll hold on to pain because it's familiar. We will hold on to toxic people because it is familiar. I have someone that I'm cool with and I'm not even gonna say if they are male or female, if they are a woman or a man, but I have someone that I know that is in a toxic situation and they just... are holding on for dear life because it's familiar. They were together for several years. They're just holding on because it's familiar. Everything in them is telling them run for cover, but they're holding on because it's familiar. Sometimes we do that with jobs as well. we can say, okay, I need the money, so let me stay at this job. then we may get a job offer for something that we know mentally would be better for us. It's paying this, let's say it's paying the same amount, maybe even a little more, not a lot more, but maybe just a couple more thousand a year. but we don't go for it because we're afraid. It's like, even if we are in a toxic environment or in a toxic space, at least we know what to expect, right? We hear people talk about that. It's a saying, what in the world is that old school saying where they're basically saying, hey, like, he a dog, but at least he my dog. I think that's a saying or a saying very similar to that. I'm having a brain fart right now. But it's in those sayings that it teaches us At least you know your devil. I don't know what else is out there, but why does it have to be like that? And I mean, it could be something as simple as, okay, I'll put myself out there. So I am one of those people, if I love something, I'll hold onto it. I'm not the biggest materialistic person. Granted, I like nice things, but I'm not the most materialistic person. So if I have something, I'm gonna hold onto it. When I was in college, I was a typical broke college student and y'all. I had this suitcase and this purse that matched. It was Steve Matten. I love Steve Matten. His shoes, heels are comfy. So it was Steve Matten and when I tell y'all I was holding on, I was holding onto that bag for dear life. Mind you, I had the safety pin, some of the inside, cause it was going, it was going y'all. It was bad. I went to visit my dad and he made me throw it away. in West Virginia and I was like, I don't understand. He's like, this is ridiculous. This is embarrassing. Ain't no way you holding onto this. You have all this stuff, you're holding onto this? I was like, yes, but it has sentimental value. It's so nice. And he's like, let it go. I was like, but it's done me so well. It's done me so well. He's like, it's dry rotting. You see that piece, that little piece of leather that is peeling? It's dry rotting. Let it go, baby girl. When I tell you that man made me throw it away and took me to Ross to get some more, to get a whole new luggage set, which was beautiful, but I was like, come on daddy, God dang dog. Right? So in that moment, I was just fearful. Cause I'm like, I know this is my little old faithful. why I have to get rid of it. Right? So sometimes letting go means stepping into the unknown. And that can be scary. It can be scary to not know what's on the other side. I had this experience where when I was going through my divorce, I had a feeling I knew I was gonna be okay. I knew exactly what I had to do. God had given me all these signs of what needed to be done and it got to a point where I'm convinced he was just hitting me in the head with the signs. And I knew that I needed to come back home. I knew that I needed to, I knew all of these things and I just couldn't do it. It was just couldn't fully let go of this life that I had built for the last decade. I just, I couldn't do it. I was just afraid. It is what it is. I was extremely fearful. But when I tell y'all now on the other side of it, it's like, wow. I won't say I was afraid for no reason, but in hindsight, y'all, it would have been more fearful to stay. Y'all, letting go just means sometimes we have to walk in faith. Sometimes we have to walk in faith. You just have to take that leap and go for it. We can't let fear stop us. We can't. Think about what we teach little kids when they first learn how to ride a bicycle. What ends up happening with that? They have the tricycle on, They had the training wheels on it. They confident now. Ooh, I got it. Now we take the training wheels off. Now we have to hold them a little longer. They're a little more nervous, things like that, right? But when they get it, they're like, I can't do it. They're going to fall, scrape themselves. Maybe they're like me and a parked car will hit them while they're riding a bike. Yeah, you heard that correctly. We're just going to keep going. You never know. However, When they finally get to that point where they can ride their bicycle with no training wheels, they don't need your help, they just have to get past that mental block. And sometimes we need permission and reminders to tell us, hey, you can do it. Hey, you need to do it. So let this episode be a reminder to do it, to let it go. y'all, my goodness. Another reason why we don't let things go or another. reason why we hold on to certain things is due to trauma bonds. And this is a big one. This is a big one, okay? Sometimes we stay attached to people or situations that hurt us because the pain became a part of our routine. The pain became a part of our routine. If I'm used to pain, I haven't got accustomed to it. It is a part of my day-to-day routine. I know what to expect. I've built these walls up so that way the pain doesn't hurt me as much. The moment I experience a week free of no pain or a week free of getting my feelings hurt, Guess what? It's going to feel so uncomfortable to me to where I'm going to be. almost a little confused in a sense, because it's a cycle. It's really a cycle. And it's a cycle that we have to break. The issue is that once certain things become embedded in you, like at least for me, once something becomes embedded in me, it almost feels as though I'm losing a part of myself when I break that habit. and I break that cycle. Let me tell y'all, when I started placing boundaries, it felt as though I was losing a part of myself. And at first I was afraid. I knew I had to do it. So I was gonna get it done. But that don't mean I wasn't afraid. That doesn't mean that it didn't feel like, ooh, okay, that part of Dom no longer exists. even though I didn't want her to, that part of her to exist anymore, getting walked on all the time, just because I'm nice and I'm an easy target. No, I didn't want that. So I changed that. I moved through my fear, do it scared, right? So I did it scared. Thank you, Lala. And y'all, it really felt like, ooh, okay. So, all right. So I placed that boundary, okay. I made it where people experience consequences due to that boundary. I may remove myself a little more. Okay, so now what? snap. I'm attracting different people because my boundaries are stronger. I'm attracting a different type of friend, a different type of associate or hell, even job opportunities, quite frankly, because... This new me, I like this newer version of me more. Or not even newer, I suppose just this version of me with more boundaries. I respect myself more. I feel myself more. we have to break these trauma bonds. We really do. And it can be with anything. It does not have to be with a person. It can be with certain things. It can be with certain experiences. It can even be with certain memories that are embedded in us. Some of our core memories. Some of those core memories, we have allowed those to allow ourselves to attach to certain things that we know are not good for us. Let's think about it. Technically, that is the basis of addiction. And don't just think drugs when we talk addiction. Too much of anything is an addiction. So. I want us to really understand that we cannot heal in the same environment that broke us. and be the same person. It just doesn't work that way. If we are trying to heal in the same environment that broke us, that means that changes need to happen all the way around. Not just within ourselves, but also changes within that environment with what's around us. Things have to change. And sometimes us forcing those changes is what's really gonna help us let go. And there's this freedom. Once you get to the other side, there is this freedom that comes when you let things that no longer serve you go. It really is. It's like, okay, you get to that moment where you're like, snap, hey, this no longer affects me anymore. Or I'm no longer allowing this to happen to me anymore or allowing people to do this to me. Or the moment I see an inkling of something that I'm absolutely allergic to, mm-mm. What the aunties say, mm-mm, get somebody else to do it. I'm allergic. And I remove myself because there is a freedom. Okay, so now let's flip the script. What happens when we let go? What about those of us who have had the opportunity where we've done the work, we've done the healing, and we decided to let things go? What happens next? It's literally freedom. It's a joy in the freedom. It's almost as if a weight is lifted. Because when you let go of what's weighing you down, you open yourself up to what's really meant for you. And sometimes we're so used to holding on to certain things that we don't even realize it's weighing us down until we're free of it. And when you're free of it, you're like, snap, it's a whole new world. It's a whole new world. I mean, think about that for a second. What if You've been blocking your blessings because your hands are too full, holding onto things that no longer serve you. There's this book that talks about how trauma lives in the body. The book is called The Body Keeps the Score. I can't think of who wrote it, but the book is called The Body Keeps the Score. And when I tell you the entire book is the epitome of letting us know until we release these things that no longer serve us, these things that make us feel stuck, these things that are holding us back from our growth, we will still be stuck in survival mode. Until we release it, we're still stuck in survival mode. But when we let it go, that's when we're able to reclaim our ability to live fully. and freely. I mean, technically, girl, letting go isn't giving up. It's choosing you. It's choosing yourself. It's betting on yourself. I am betting on me. Every time I let something go, every time I make sure that I am not harboring certain things, I am choosing myself. And in this phase that I'm in right now, that's all I want to choose is myself. The way I'm able to juggle certain things right now and really stay truthful with myself, be mindful of how I'm feeling, staying in tune and trying to remain as aligned as possible, because you can't be aligned all the time. Like we can, some people can. But I'm gonna tell you right now, I'm a work in progress. But. My children are reaping the benefits of me choosing myself. They're reaping the benefits of it. They get a mommy who, yes, is busy, but I'm so organized now to where it forces me and it allows me to have as much time as possible with my jits. And I mean full intentional time where I get to run around the house with them, where I get to talk to my oldest son's teachers, talk to the director of his music program after school. I'm able to talk to the teachers at my youngest son's daycare, get updates on how his potty training is going, right? In real time and... after when it's time for me to pick them up. And it's all because I chose myself. I chose me. I did. I mean, I would love to be an example for those that are closest to me of the greatness that can happen when we choose ourselves. Because it's embedded in so many of us, and I'm still working on it, I'm still a work in progress. It's so embedded in so many of us to put everyone else's needs first. to throw ourselves in the water to save everyone else, whether we know them or we don't, whether we're cool with them or we're not. But this year, let's stop that shit, y'all. Let's stop. Can we stop it this year? I feel like we can. Let's be accountability partners, okay? So if you see me doing this, say, hey Dom, you're doing it again. All right now, you're doing it again. Let me know, okay? So we know why it's hard to let things go. But we also know what's possible when we let it go. The thing is, how do we actually do it? How can we let things go? And it's a couple steps that I've taken personally to get to this place. Mind you, I'm still working on it with some things. So I'm actively taking these steps with several different things. because I don't want to be the pretty lady in the Erykah Badu song that she's singing about in Bag Lady. I don't want to be that person. So one thing I started doing, y'all, is allowing myself to feel. I stop avoiding my emotions. I admit to myself, hey, I'm okay, but this still sucks. This sucks, y'all. My sister loves, my goodness, that's one of her quotes. She'll just be like, She was like, yeah, okay, but it's okay for it to still suck even though you all right. And I'm like, dang, yo, that's real. It's all right to feel however I feel. And it's not weird for me to be okay. And if I wanna cry it out, cry it out. If I wanna journal, journal. If I need to write a poem, happy poem, angry poem, horny poem, any type of poem, sad poem. Right? That's what I'm gonna do. Cause I'm gonna do whatever I need to do that doesn't involve harming myself to process my emotions. To process however the heck I'm feeling. Another thing is, I saw a lot of articles and things always saying, hey, forgive, even if the person doesn't deserve it, forgive. And we always hear forgiveness is not for you. mean, forgiveness is for you, it's not for them. It's about releasing yourself from the grip of resentment. Hey, I'm gonna tell you right now. I don't have to forgive you to move on. Boom, I said it. I said it. That's that one thing I know may be a little controversial, but it is what it is. I do not have to forgive someone to move on. For me personally, I have found a way where I can still process my emotions, allow myself to feel however I'm feeling, make actionable steps to move past it, and not forgive someone. Now what I did let go of is the negative feelings towards certain people. I mean, one of them I'm still working on, but. I was able to, I'm at a point where I'm able to let go of those negative emotions that I was harboring for other people and for people who hurt me, especially to the core. Do I forgive them? No, I don't. I don't. But does their presence affect me still? No, it doesn't. So I'm just telling y'all right now, if you want to forgive, if forgiving is what's holding you back, then yeah, you need to forgive that person, whether they deserve it or not. But if you are like me, where you don't have to forgive someone to move past it, then do that. As long as the main key is making sure that we are not holding on to those stressors that are associated with that person. or that are associated with that situation or with that location. Sometimes it's certain places that just the moment we see it, the moment we think about it, it's just, ugh, right? but we have to let go of those feelings. You don't have to forgive that place. You don't have to save space in your heart for that place, person, thing or feeling, right? But what you can do is still find a way to move on. Still find a way to make it where if someone mentions that place, that person, that experience, that thing, where it still won't affect you. in a negative way or stress you out. And I'm not saying that you still can't feel because even if something does cause you to have those types of feelings, let's just move towards a place where the hurt doesn't last as long. Just move towards a place where the hurt does not last as long. I will give y'all an example. My girl best friend passed away a couple years ago. And for a while, I wasn't angry with her. I just, I wasn't angry with her. I was just more so at a place, for the sake of this episode, I'll keep it very short. I was just more at a place where certain memories with her would just send me over the deep end. or she and I have the same name, both of our names are Dom. And when I tell y'all, it would be times where someone would call my name and I would instantly think of her. And that'll just send me down a spiral for a week. And I know grief is something different, but I also know that with her, it's complicated grief. Cause that was my sister. That grief is just very complicated. So I had to find a way to let go of the complicated aspects of it. If that makes sense or if you're following me, I had to find a way to do that so that way I'm not constantly walking around in a stage of hurt or in a stage where someone as simple as calling my name has me just down for the count in my room under them covers. So for that, I had to. I didn't have to forgive those moments or forgive her for that particular moment. I just had to find a way where it didn't affect me as much. That was it. Now, another one would be creating new habits. That would be another one, okay? How do we let go of things? We can create new habits. Replace them old habits that you don't want. with new ones. Replace the energy that you use to spend on that pain with something new. It could be a hobby. It could be a workout routine. For me, it's MMA. It could be a new goal. Like, my podcast girl, come sit with me. It can literally be whatever you choose. Just make it a choice that aligns with your values and who you are now or who you want to be. in the near future. Another one, y'all know, come on now, y'all know I have a couple of psychology degrees over here, okay? So you know I'm gonna say it, seek professional help, okay? You don't have to keep venting to everybody. You don't have to keep dumping on everyone. Is it okay to share how you feel? Absolutely. But try a therapist. You may be able to. Get therapy services for free depending on your job, depending on your benefits, things like that. Some jobs have it, cannot, barnacles y'all, I'm having brain farts today. But some jobs have it where through one of their partnerships, you will be allotted 10 free therapy sessions. Check it out and don't just go once, because y'all that's just intro. Don't just go once or twice, keep it going. Find a therapist that you feel as though can relate to you, that looks like someone you would trust, and try it out. Let them help you navigate through this process. Because sometimes those same friends, family members who you may want to vent to may also be the people who are causing you pain or who are causing you to hold on to certain things that you need to let go. So try a therapist. What will it hurt? Another one, ooh. This will probably be the last one, but I would say practice gratitude. Practice gratitude. I love, I'm a very optimistic person, y'all, to my core. I'm super duper optimistic, and I love focusing on what I am gaining by letting certain things go. I try not to focus on what I'm losing. And quite frankly, that brings me back to us being fearful. When we were talking about fear of the unknown, sometimes... We are afraid of the unknown because all we can focus on is on what we would be losing. by putting certain boundaries in place, by letting certain things go, instead of us focusing on what we have to gain. What's the likelihood of you just gaining the world? And by the world, I mean peace, freedom. What if? Let's think about it. Every time you let go of something heavy, you get lighter. You get lighter and you're able to float around a little easier, move through the rooms and to the rooms that you're meant to move to. So let's take a moment to reflect on what women, right, on what women around our age are letting go of. Now, studies show that women between the ages of 25 to about 49 are letting go of toxic relationships, unrealistic beauty standards, career paths that don't fulfill them, people pleasing tendencies, y'all that chat. that'd be a whole episode on its own. And even guilt over prioritizing themselves. I watched a video earlier where someone said the realest thing I heard online and they made this point where they were just like, hey, you going to get your skincare, taking care of your skincare needs, you. taking care of your body, meaning going to get a wax, maybe going to get your brows done, maybe going to get your hair done. These should not be considered you treating yourself. Technically, she didn't say it that nice. She basically told us to stop treating ourselves like dogs. She said, why you keep giving yourself treats? Stop treating yourself like a dog. You are a human. These are necessities. Not treats. And when I tell you, y'all, that resonated with me, ah, La La the Skin Coach. That's who I was watching on Instagram today. Y'all, when I tell you that resonated with me like nobody's business, think about it. It's like when men get their hair cut. When they go to the barber, even if they have locks or a whole bunch of hair and they get the tape, the edge up thing. Even when they get that, they sit at the barber, it's like a therapy session for them, and they leave feeling like a whole new guy. We've all seen those cool videos, feeling like a whole new man. because that's a necessity for them. We have certain necessities that we know will make us feel good. We have to add those. Those can be some of those new habits, some of those new good habits that you replace. that you use in placement of some of those negative things and things that don't serve us that you're not letting go. So I want to leave us on a positive note, okay? I have faith in us for 2025, and I'm going to mention this in a couple episodes, just as friendly reminders, just so that we can be one another's accountability partners, because this is really something that can hinder us in so many ways. We gotta let it go. You could have done a vision board. Don't do a vision board or don't make all these plans for a new year, but still intend to be the exact same person that you were last year. If you have the same goals from last year. Why not make a couple changes? Why not make a couple changes to see like, hey, you know what, if I tweet this, if I let go of this, you know, I'm a little afraid right now. If I just let go of this one thing, this one or two things, let's see if I can reach my goals by the end of this year. Or let's see if I can get closer to these goals than I got last year. Or let's see if I can make it where I don't give up on these goals by the top of spring. because this is your time to do it. I know this is my time, so this is definitely your time to do it. And that's exactly what we gonna do. So thank you girl for sitting with me on another episode in this beautiful season of season two. I really appreciate it y'all. Please continue to look out for events, my live recording that I will be doing. please continue to look out for these beautiful moments. I record at Co Space. Most of my events, if not all of them, will be at Cold Space because the Girl Come Sit With Me community is really welcomed here. And I love that because the whole goal of this podcast is to curate safe spaces for us to be in, for us to feel as though, okay, I can be vulnerable. I can let my hair down. And if you don't have any hair, hey, I could bob my head from side to side in the greens. So thank you for tuning in. Have a beautiful day. Please don't forget to leave a review, like, comment, share these episodes with your friends. And remember, let it go. Later.